we are great friends now....but he wasn't much of a father growing up.. worked all the time...we went on few vacations....pretty much pussy whipped my my nazis jw mother.. he never did believe in the whole jw thing.
he just when along with it, for my mothers sake.. she never did respect him for not being a "spiritual head" and pretty much let us kids know about it.. i, like my mother became very self rightious and judgmental.. i wished now he had just came to me just once and said "keith maybe the jws are not the people you think they are.
" but he was to afraid of my mother to say that...even though he knew it to be true.i would have never believed him....back then....but it would have planted a seed.... .
After reading these posts.....with tears in my eyes, I wonder if we should write a letter to our fathers. Telling them the things we have said here...
Would it do any good....probably not...my father is 85 years old... will he change?...doubtful.
But....who knows it could plant a seed...
Plus they could never ever say....they didn't know how we REALLY felt..
Keith Casarona
i only went twice right before i left in 2001.. my then jw wife.... thought in would be a good idea.
she thought all "my angry issuses" were against my dead nazis jw mother.....they were really about me living a lie for over 10 years... so anyway...i went to this dr. and in just 2 visits, told him my whole life story,begining to end.
he did't really say very much.. at the end of the whole thing i said "well doc...you can see that i'm pretty much screwed no matter what i do...if i stay in the cult i'm screwed...and if i leave i'm screwed!.
It is interesting....84 hits in 5 hours....
I guess the vast majority don't think therapy is all that important.
I know I haven't shaken off all my demons and think both my kids and me could use more therapy now...more then ever.
we are great friends now....but he wasn't much of a father growing up.. worked all the time...we went on few vacations....pretty much pussy whipped my my nazis jw mother.. he never did believe in the whole jw thing.
he just when along with it, for my mothers sake.. she never did respect him for not being a "spiritual head" and pretty much let us kids know about it.. i, like my mother became very self rightious and judgmental.. i wished now he had just came to me just once and said "keith maybe the jws are not the people you think they are.
" but he was to afraid of my mother to say that...even though he knew it to be true.i would have never believed him....back then....but it would have planted a seed.... .
We are great friends now....but he wasn't much of a father growing up.
Worked all the time...we went on few vacations....pretty much pussy whipped my my Nazis JW mother.
He never did believe in the whole JW thing. He just when along with it, for my mothers sake.
She never did respect him for not being a "Spiritual Head" and pretty much let us kids know about it.
I, like my mother became very self rightious and judgmental.
I wished now he had just came to me just once and said "Keith maybe the JWs are not the people you think they are." but he was to afraid of my mother to say that...even though he knew it to be true.I would have never believed him....back then....but it would have planted a seed....
We are close now but we lost 30 years because of the poison....of their faith.
i only went twice right before i left in 2001.. my then jw wife.... thought in would be a good idea.
she thought all "my angry issuses" were against my dead nazis jw mother.....they were really about me living a lie for over 10 years... so anyway...i went to this dr. and in just 2 visits, told him my whole life story,begining to end.
he did't really say very much.. at the end of the whole thing i said "well doc...you can see that i'm pretty much screwed no matter what i do...if i stay in the cult i'm screwed...and if i leave i'm screwed!.
I only went twice right before I left in 2001.
My then JW wife.... thought in would be a good idea. She thought all "my angry issuses" were against my dead Nazis JW mother.....They were really about me living a LIE for over 10 years..
So anyway...I went to this DR. and in just 2 visits, told him my whole life story,begining to end. He did't really say very much.
At the end of the whole thing I said "Well Doc...you can see that I'm pretty much screwed no matter what I do...If I stay in the cult I'm screwed...and if I leave I'm screwed!
To which he said...shaking his head....."Yep...your right!"
His words were right....there would be pain either way I went.....but the "light went on." There was just something about me telling a stranger about my crazy life as a Jehovah's Witness. How, the religion treated me and my family. The fear and gulit we had.....telling all these things to a total stranger.....Me just listening to my own words come out of my mouth....trying to make my life "sound Normal"....As if to say it's no big deal I can live with it...
I knew I could no longer live in this hell, I created for myself...Even with the possibity of losing just about everything....I knew I couldn't sit on the fence any longer....
As they say "Get busy living or...get busy dying"
Was it easy....No...did I lose all the things I "thought" were important to me .....but really weren't, yes... with the exception of my two wonderful children, who left the borg too.
If I could go back and change it......would I?.....Not for one minute....The gains far out weight the loses!
So yes...Therapy....could be a good thing.
i posted this at the end of worldlygirl's question, but i think it got bared into so many posts...
hi there, i am pretty much in the same situation here as the worldly girl(minus the children).
my boyfriend is an ex jw his ex wife cheated on him they divorced.
Do whatever you like just keep in mind.
1.If your boy friend joins back up...the real presure for you to join, will begin...because his family will be on him as well.
2. If you join and change your mind later...the same thing his family did to him (cut him off for years) they will do to you.
If that sounds fun and you don't have a problem with that....go for it.
I was in love too but when I decided to leave it destroyed our marriage.....it can have that kind of power.
are you pretty much the same here as you are in real life??
?.
I think I will defir to the 20 people that have meet in person. They would be the best ones to answer that question.
Not me.
i'm a fader myself.... mentally exhausted from thinking of all the reasons why i've given up the "truth" and then the whole "what if" bs... anyway, welcome me, i'm new.
:)
Welcome my friend
You will find no judgment here. We are all fellow travelers.
The stories here will blow your mind...
apparently some food items offend persons on this site.
so, out of curiousity, what foods offend you?
what about them offends you?
I can eat anything but one thing!
Monkey balls....I tried them can't stand them....that is were I draw the line.
apparently some food items offend persons on this site.
so, out of curiousity, what foods offend you?
what about them offends you?
I can eat anything but one thing!
Monkey balls....I tried them can't stand them....that is were I draw the line.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/shropshire/7078455.stm .
a young mother has died after giving birth to twins, following claims that she had refused a blood transfusion because of her faith.
jehovah's witness, emma gough, 22, from telford, shropshire, gave birth on 25 october.
FUBAR
It is indeed sad to see people killing themselfs for religion & politics.....been happening for a long time!
